Motherhood*, and our relationship to mothers as a society is complex to say the least.

We love them, we wouldn't exist without them, we honor them. We neglect them, disrespect them, and expect the impossible from them. What's going on with that?

As society undergoes its inevitable shifts on large scales, individual people experience pressure and discomfort while they maintain, or break from, existing cultural norms. We want to please our attachment figures, but we also want to distinguish ourselves from them, and those two desires are at odds.

We feel this as members of families between generations when we feel frustrated with our elders. We express this by fighting, distancing, fixating, performing, pleasing, blending or protecting.

Being a mother, having one, not knowing how to be one, not feeling like one, losing one, becoming one, wishing to be one, needing one... sometimes all at once... is a big deal.

What will you discover in therapy about your relationship to the mother archetype? I'd be happy to explore that with you.

Here's how we do the work:

We check out the history of your relationship to attachment figures, and seek to understand them more deeply.

We examine the pressures you're under in your family role, and find ways of sustaining, if not growing, through this life moment.

We gather up to exchange support in groups. Join the Group Therapy Interest List to be informed when new group offerings come out.

We find a way to advocate when we notice needs going unmet. Check out my work with breastfeeding breadwinners here.

The generations beyond ours will thank us for doing this work. Thank you for choosing therapy.

​* As a note on gender, I acknowledge the reality that one need not be "female" or a "woman" to have mother stuff as your primary concern in therapy, nor to take on an identity of "mother," or to birth humans. I work with parents and non-parents of all genders.As a note on gender, I acknowledge the reality that one need not be "female" or a "woman" to have mother stuff as your primary concern in therapy, nor to take on an identity of "mother," or to birth humans. I work with parents and non-parents of all genders.

You are one of the people making the world better. But you're having to admit that your own world is... not okay. In fact, you barely get a minute edgewise to be able to tell that you're not okay.

But when you do turn inward and notice yourself, it's no wonder you're avoiding it. There's a loooooot of feelings backed up in there.

The things you hear about and witness on a daily basis are more intense than the average person.

Nobody really understands what you do. In fact, when you tell people, they cringe, "I could never do that for a living!"

We all need a space to recieve care, and that includes those who help others or are "supposed to have their life together." From what I can see, and after all everyone has been through lately, nobody has their shit together.

This is a space to explore who else you are, besides an incredible human showing up relentlessly caring for others.

I help helpers feel permission to release their many responsibilities. In therapy, we look at the use of boundaries, origin stories of how you got to be so helpful, and the needed supports in your life.

Get some relief. You will be a more effective helper when you are well. The folks you serve deserve the version of you who can generously provide care.

Let's make sure you're solid and fulfilled before sending you out there to facilitate miracles. 

You're holding it all together, but what if you fall apart?

You're having trouble looking away from your baby, I mean your business, to prioritize your personal life.

It's going okay, or better-than-okay, but you can't trust that you really get to settle into a sustainable sense of success... because you can't believe you're actually doing this in the first place!

Business ownership can be a wild and crazy adventure. So much so that I recommend therapy as a business health practice.

Where there is indecision, interpersonal conflict, trouble communicating, procrastination, there is something deeper going on.

Our work is directly connected to our source of stability and safety (money), which makes it a significant attachment figure in our lives. It has the power to make or break us!

It's important to understand how our origin stories influence our present day outcomes. Once you understand your relationship to money and survival within capitalism, you can begin to make changes that free you to be able to thrive.

​Imagine knowing yourself so well that your business could amplify your impact, while you experience ease.

​Come to therapy and have a look at your cultural influences, value systems, and personal needs as you take your next steps forward.